Some self-love gurus make it seem like buying yourself flowers or writing “I’m beautiful” on your bathroom mirror is the secret to being happy and accepting yourself. No wonder so many of us are skeptics! But self-love can help boost resilience and confidence, decrease stress and improve relationships, experts say. “You must care enough about yourself to welcome the life that you deserve,” says psychotherapist Joyce Marter, CEO of Urban Balance counseling practice. And you don’t have to turn up the cheese factor to do that. Instead, try these surprising self-love practices.
1. Plan an Adventure
Whether you book a trip to take cooking classes in Italy or you book a reservation at a new Italian restaurant in your city doesn’t matter. Both help because they shake you out of your normal routine, which can begin to feel boring and mundane. “Having something to look forward to promotes positivity and optimism,” says Alexis Meads, a life coach and self-love and relationship specialist.
2. Make an Upbeat Morning Playlist
As you get ready in the morning, play songs that wake you up, make you feel excited and get you out of your head. For talk-show host and self-love expert Nitika Chopra, that’s meditation music. But if pop is what makes you feel energized and ready to take on the day, cue up your Bruno Mars playlist.